Steve Harvey encourages women to take control of their love lives and find happiness in relationships by emphasizing the importance of self-respect, self-confidence, and setting clear standards and boundaries in romantic relationships. He often advises women to prioritize their own happiness and well-being, to recognize their own worth, and to not settle for less than they deserve in a relationship. Additionally, he advocates for effective communication, understanding male perspectives, and fostering a healthy balance of power dynamics in relationships.